Who is a friend? s/he is a person who stand by us, who
cares, support ,protect us, we can add lot of describing words here. We look
for all these in a friends. I am very sure we do not pick a friend based on
their looks, style, or social statues. My question is very simple are we a good
friends? Do you behave as a person who you would love to have friendship with?
A good friend is a
good listener
We always want a
friend who listen to our endless nonsense talk without judging us, without
backbiting us, but are we a good listener do we give the same chance to our
friend to talk without judging them.
In our gang of friends we always have one person who we stop
or interrupt when they open their mouth to tell something, we call them name
brand them saying you talk no sense. I am talking about that person did we give
a chance for that person to talk let it be wrong or something unrelated but we
have to allow them also to talk without judging. Then we are a good friend.
A good friend will be
honest, loyal and stand up for you.
Every dream friend
need these qualities even if one is broken the relationship is gone am I right?
Now can we sit back for few minutes and thing how honest, loyal or stood up we
were for our friend?
Honesty are we?
We do not tell everything to our friend for lot of reasons but expecting them
to tell everything is wrong. We sometime here certain things from a third
person about our friend and feel offended that they didn’t tell you regarding it and we fight with them
for it and spoil a relationship or we create a cold war between us. Just think
there are certain thing even which you have hidden from your friends and it’s
not yet out. This is not the meaning of honesty according to friendship when a
friend ask us for an opinion give the honest answer is honestly even though we
know that answer may hurt your friend.
Loyal another
word that is misjudged in friendship. Being loyal do not mean hiding everything
they say or do. If your friend is doing a mistake or is in a bad situation
where an elder or specialist advice is required then you can show your loyalty
by telling about their situation and getting them help. Standing by them when they feel low is the most important need of a
friends. You do not have to support them when they do wrong, but rather correct
them and stand by them during that phase even if they are cursing you for it.
A good friend will advise
you.
if we are a good friend we will always
advise our friend for their betterment in life. If a friend is angry on someone
we always try to advise our friend to bring down they anger but in the flow we always
tend to give wrong advice to them.
If a girl rejects your friends the first thing we tell them
is that girl is not worth his love we try to downgrade that particular person
sometime just to cool our friend but it will create a wrong impression in your
friends heart. We always advise our friend to smoke, drink, try drug according
to a situation and our explanation will be simple you will forget the worries. As
a good friend are we doing the friend thing if I want to support my friend then
I should never ask them to indulge in all this even for fun.
A good friend will
accept disagreement in a healthy way
All relationship end when we do not accept the disagreement.
Every one of us have our choices some can be agreed some cannot. If we are a
good friends we will always end an argument in a most dignified way without helling
and hitting each other. If we have a disagreement with our friend telling or
talking about it is never wrong but how we tell matters. What is right for you
is never right for the other person you can always make your statement clean, clear
and strong but we cannot force the other person to accept your agreement. Once the
talk is over forget about it as two people with two option. Fighting for it and
breaking head will never change the opinion instead adjusting with the
disagreement will end well.
These just few thing which we have to follow and not expect
our friend to follow. If you and your follow these then your relationship is
going to be the best. We all have up and down in a relationship but how we
handle them matter. When each one of us are behave then there won’t be issues .
I know some of you will have your doubt and also points to argue why do not
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