Are you a good friend?

Who is a friend? s/he is a person who stand by us, who cares, support ,protect us, we can add lot of describing words here. We look for all these in a friends. I am very sure we do not pick a friend based on their looks, style, or social statues. My question is very simple are we a good friends? Do you behave as a person who you would love to have friendship with?

A good friend is a good listener

    We always want a friend who listen to our endless nonsense talk without judging us, without backbiting us, but are we a good listener do we give the same chance to our friend to talk without judging them.

In our gang of friends we always have one person who we stop or interrupt when they open their mouth to tell something, we call them name brand them saying you talk no sense. I am talking about that person did we give a chance for that person to talk let it be wrong or something unrelated but we have to allow them also to talk without judging. Then we are a good friend.

               

A good friend will be honest, loyal and stand up for you.

   Every dream friend need these qualities even if one is broken the relationship is gone am I right? Now can we sit back for few minutes and thing how honest, loyal or stood up we were for our friend?

Honesty are we? We do not tell everything to our friend for lot of reasons but expecting them to tell everything is wrong. We sometime here certain things from a third person about our friend and feel offended that they didn’t  tell you regarding it and we fight with them for it and spoil a relationship or we create a cold war between us. Just think there are certain thing even which you have hidden from your friends and it’s not yet out. This is not the meaning of honesty according to friendship when a friend ask us for an opinion give the honest answer is honestly even though we know that answer may hurt your friend.

Loyal another word that is misjudged in friendship. Being loyal do not mean hiding everything they say or do. If your friend is doing a mistake or is in a bad situation where an elder or specialist advice is required then you can show your loyalty by telling about their situation and getting them help. Standing by them when they feel low is the most important need of a friends. You do not have to support them when they do wrong, but rather correct them and stand by them during that phase even if they are cursing you for it.

A good friend will advise you.

 if we are a good friend we will always advise our friend for their betterment in life. If a friend is angry on someone we always try to advise our friend to bring down they anger but in the flow we always tend to give wrong advice to them.

If a girl rejects your friends the first thing we tell them is that girl is not worth his love we try to downgrade that particular person sometime just to cool our friend but it will create a wrong impression in your friends heart. We always advise our friend to smoke, drink, try drug according to a situation and our explanation will be simple you will forget the worries. As a good friend are we doing the friend thing if I want to support my friend then I should never ask them to indulge in all this even for fun.

A good friend will accept disagreement in a healthy way

All relationship end when we do not accept the disagreement. Every one of us have our choices some can be agreed some cannot. If we are a good friends we will always end an argument in a most dignified way without helling and hitting each other. If we have a disagreement with our friend telling or talking about it is never wrong but how we tell matters. What is right for you is never right for the other person you can always make your statement clean, clear and strong but we cannot force the other person to accept your agreement. Once the talk is over forget about it as two people with two option. Fighting for it and breaking head will never change the opinion instead adjusting with the disagreement will end well.

These just few thing which we have to follow and not expect our friend to follow. If you and your follow these then your relationship is going to be the best. We all have up and down in a relationship but how we handle them matter. When each one of us are behave then there won’t be issues . I know some of you will have your doubt and also points to argue why do not comment it below so we can talk about it…